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Imagine living together forever, happily ever after. What does it take for this to happen from day one to the last moments of our lives in this existence? What are the steps? Is it moment by moment process, or does it take a day month or a year or a decade for us to learn to act a certain way? Are we actors playing a role? Is it the life skills that we have learned over the years that we need to put to use? I realize that we all have the same goal of making it to the finish line, but we have different thoughts on how to get there.

Some of us spend our lives counting, whether it be the things that we do for the other person, or perhaps what we perceive as lies from the other person, we count to give ourselves the advantage.  Our compromise is another form of counting. Bringing to the other person's the wrong that they did to you.

Why do we put ourselves into this prison of unhappiness? This is too great  of a burden to carry. It is also a great burden for the other person to carry. Why should you have to keep up with the other person's faults. You say that I will never put up with his or her faults. It is a wonder how you have survived for as long as you have. Thinking perhaps that you have the advantage.

Beginning and End part 1

Just as sure as there is a beginning there is and ending. How relationships start in joy and ecstasy they sometimes end in sadness is beyond me.
I will never cease to be amazed how the small things that wouldn't bother anyone in the beginning now hurt us with all intensity.
It is the Bible that says, it is the small foxes that spoil the vine. As an adult, I am rather disturbed by the fact that when we find a mate and marry them, we have all of these feelings that we call love, Many of them hard to described. We know or feel instinctively that this is our mate. Yes there are things that we may or may not like, but we think that we can live with them or perhaps these things will change. We like what we feel when we are with them, a sense of being or belonging.
We walk in confidence and assurance that we have made the right choice. If we are pray-ers, we have put in much time asking God to direct our choices. Wow how ironic. At the end of the journey,when we seem that we have gained so much more "so called" knowledge, we think we should have chosen better. '
We go on for many years in a quandary wondering why we made our choice, especially if the person changes up on us or we start expecting more of them than they are able to give.
At this point no one can do anything right.
Someone is always wrong.
Someone is always doing something the wrong way.
No one is interested in being patient.
No one is being considerate.
We began to count the wrongs
Sounds self serving  doesn't it? Well it is! In my estimate, at this point no one is willing to give for the sake of the first principle of love, and that is love gives itself. I want, I want , I want...
This is the point where one of the spouses may add another person into the mix, thus making this environment more complicated. or a person could have been added long before this point.
If this is the way relationships end who wants to start one, or be in one.

Laying all the jokes aside throw the mistakes under the kitchen

Sometimes when you see people scrambling to fix a problem that they themselves  caused by trying to deceive or hurt another person is very eye-opening. To watch this backstroking is sometimes hilarious, but also sad.  I feel that God will sometimes allow your enemies to fall in front of your face and you feel more  sorrow than vindication.  There are the times when you feel total vindication.  Then ther'e are the times when what ever happens the chapter seems to never end. 
I have learn from past experiences that forgiving your enemies releases you from the pain and body of hatred. It is the same hatred that will in turn cause you to impose the  same behavior on another; Hatred will cause you to suffer sickness in your own body. So the best remedy  for somebody that he imposed themselves on me is to forgive them. To forgive does not mean for me to allow their behavior to keep happening. Just if someone stepped on my toe, will I allow it to happen over and over again? Eventually I will either move my foot or or stop the action against my person. Yes we have been taught to turn the other  cheek but there are circumstances where we must tell the other person to get off of my foot. I remember hearing it like this. Some times people will live in accordance with the Scripture,  but there are times that you have to help some live it.