Sometimes you wish that you could take things back. Like it is said, it is like a stone thrown. The force of the throw will cause the stone to go further than intended. Anger causes us to do and say things that we would not otherwise say. Yes, we loose control, the things that we would not possibly say out of our mouth pour out like a sieve. Where is the governor? It is lost in the anger. Why do we allow the things to take control of the things that we can just keep to ourselves? This is the the beginning of the end when we say thing to purposely offend the other. Why must we continue to act like children. Actually children do not act like that. Then the question becomes why must we as adults act like that in the name of love. That can't be love. Love "does not" behave itself in an unseemly way. Love does not testify against itself as couples do. Love can not be just the feeling of attraction that we feel for each other when we are drawn to each other, but even when we do not feel the attraction love must continue.
Love is many things to many people, but it cannot be an act, but rather an action in favor of the other rather that the self. It must be a denial of the self and an exalting of the other. The practice or life style of love is a determination to esteem others higher than your self. Yes, there is self love. And there is love that satisfies the self for a moment, but that love is incomplete without the object of another. It is lifeless and selfish. Again the stress here is "relationships". Relationships are never just focused on one, but rather the focusing on the unit as a whole. It is what is good for the whole. Love doesn't act, it responds, but moreover it anticipates the need of the other. It seeks the need of the other for the nutrition of the whole.
