" I don't want apologies from you, I just want the truth"...
All of my adult life I had to apologize for being on the wrong side of the argument. How dare I take that position with a woman.
No one likes arguing all the time, especially with the ones you have relationship with.
I felt like it was just keeping peace. I wasn't trying to lie, I only wanted peace. You have heard it said repeatedly,
"if Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy".
Now she was not Mama, but she was my best friend. She wasn't trying to offend me, she only wanted to arrive at the truth. Appeasement was for someone who didn't care about being honest. Arriving at the truth was a process for her when dealing with family and friends. She did not want to waste words, just tell me how you feel about a particular thing, or what your thinking about a particular thing. Lets arrive together at a common ground. Now I had to unlearn some of the things I learned growing up.
She said, I want you to deal with me the way you deal with the word of scriptures.
Now that was odd to me, because I never put those two thoughts together.
Different concept here, I thought to myself.
I didn't mince words when speaking scripture. I said what I believed whether you liked it or not. It was my belief system. No one was going to convince me to change to their way of thinking. I am responsible for what I believe about God. To you it may not seem right, but it is what I am. For someone to change you they must convince you that you are wrong. What satisfies you is not what satisfies me. With all that said, she wanted to know how I arrived at my position. I didn't have to change. She wanted to know what I stood for.
Apologies or fake apologies was not what she wanted to hear. To her it was saying I don't think you are able to comprehend what I am saying.
Not everyone is like this, but I have learn from this warrior of truth. I will be honest with out apologies
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